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Communication Is Depositing A Part Of Yourself In Another Person.

Kali Holmes communication

Take advantage of every opportunity to practice your communication skills so that when important occasions arise, you will have the gift, the style, the sharpness, the clarity, and the emotions to affect other people - Jim Rohn

  Network marketing is straight out communication. You must learn excellent communication skills and never stop communicating, be it through our body language, listening, the way we talk, how we present down to the clothes we wear. It is completely natural as humans to judge others, when rather we need to learn to accept and understand. It is when we fail to speak up when we feel misunderstood or don’t ask questions when we are uncertain that disaster most often strikes and we experience what is called “communication breakdown.” Have you ever just feared confrontation in your family or work place environment so much that you let things bottle up, stew inside and suppress your feelings for the fear of being judged or confronted on the defense of the person who you are in adversity with? Are you that person that just says yes and agrees with everything and everyone for the sake of not having to enter a discussion in which you may find yourself admitting your wrongs? The two worst things you can do are not confronting the situation bothering you, and, always agreeing and saying yes when you really want to say no. The general reason most people don’t communicate how the really feel is due to  their fear of something. Fear is simply put: False Evidence Appearing Real. It is true, that most times, what we do not know makes us feel uncomfortable and no one likes to be made to feel silly or a joke of by voicing their opinion for what they already reservations towards. Therefore most people just decide to retract into their shell or go with the flow as an unconscious protective mechanism.  It is incredibly liberating to communicate assertively and confront adversity than saying  nothing at all in which anger and resentment will inevitably manifest.

"Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech that you will ever regret." - Dr Laurence J Peter

Confrontation is not always pleasant, but it need not be unsettling either. I have found MLM, at times, to be extremely confronting (life in general as well) on so many levels. In the MLM industry, we are dealing with people everyday who have their ‘life’ aside from their business partnership with us. You need to be able to communicate and relate to all types of people from all walks of life and understand we are not all same and we all have personal issues occurring that may affect our ability to perform. There may have a couple of people in your down line who are those super charged double diamonds in the making whom you get along fabulously with and then out of nowhere adversity strikes. You don’t see eye to eye and you have a fall out. Are you going to let that adverse situation destroy your relationship and be stubborn, not listen or get frustrated because you feel they’re not building the business as fast and passionately as you are? Or are you going to look at the bigger picture, realise that curve balls are going to come flying at incredible speeds, unexpectedly constantly throughout life, and then take this in your stride to communicate well and resolve the disagreement? Adversity is a part of life that shapes us and forces us to grow. As we grow, we change, as we change we become better leaders and stronger communicators. The majority of the population fear change because it is CONFRONTING, it forces us outside of our comfort zone and until you make change your second nature, is very unsettling. Successful network marketers are constantly in change and practicing effective communication, every single day. How one learns to effectively communicate is first by being honest with oneself  about your feelings and then compassionately delivering your thoughts from a place where you are not blaming, accusing or judging the other, simply speaking always from how YOU feel and how YOU were AFFECTED when “such and such occurred”. Starting today, to be an effective communicator by being compassionate towards others, step into their shoes and really listen to what is on their mind with the intention to resolve things in one way or another. It is far better to over communicate than to under communicate and leave negative energy lurking in your life.

"The way we communicate with ourselves and with others ultimately determines the quality of our lives." - Anthony Robbins

Communication is the KEY to a massive business in network marketing, the sooner you understand this, learn compassion and accept people instead of judging them, the sooner you will enjoy your life of freedom that this business so generously provides.